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Tycoonism – “Success always occurs in private, and failure in full view.”

March 23, 2009

One of the things that I have noticed in our culture is the bad habit we have of amplifying failure. Why is this? Do we get any gratification from letting others know why and how we failed? How many times did this happen when you were young? At the dinner table, while with other family members, your mother starts to lament to everybody who wasn’t deaf about your recent downfall. “He did this, did that…didn’t do this, didn’t do that…”…on and on and on! Did you ever stop to ask yourself how these bad things happened, and just how much blame you should get just because things failed…?

There’s more than one way of inspiring people, particularly children, to do their best. How can your child emulate good habits when you practice some unproductive habits yourself? Think about the times you have lied in front of your children… Think about those times you have berated them in front of their peers, as well as their friends?

Success is sometimes celebrated quietly, but there also are advantages when even small achievements are celebrated in a big way. This doesn’t mean extravagant parties or expensive rewards; a hug, a smile and a kiss are enough to convey your approval and your happiness and to celebrate Success.

Have you noticed that when you are happy because you have succeeded at something – anything, you feel much better; you feel full of life and so sure of everything! Self-confidence exudes when one feels so good and positive; and Certainty breeds Confidence. Conversely, when you are sad, depressed and angry, your bad disposition shows itself in every way and in everything, no matter how you try to hide it. You curse; you kick the dog; slam the door; lose patience – and your temper; and your aura turns black and gloomy. Then, you look for someone or something to blame – your family, your friends, your colleagues, your boss, even God – anyone available but yourself.

As reasonable and responsible human beings, we have the power to choose how to react and feel about situations, people and events. THAT is the Power that we have– this Power is innate– meaning we are born with this capacity to master our feelings, our thoughts and then, our actions. The moment we begin to understand and then consciously choose to BE responsible for our actions and their effects on others- especially the people we love – then we always can choose to feel differently about our mistakes and our failures. Once we decide to be different and choose to be on top of our game at all times, we begin to be more responsible of our actions which, coupled with a good plan, ensures us of a more positive outcome.

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